Perhaps the hardest thing, most beautiful to be, is in our skin with reality

Kia ora,

My website is a creative space to explore what arises and to trust that the process of creativity has my back. It is a celebration of the growth and understanding that can come from our lived experience, moving us beyond the distress that invisibility and trauma burns into our neuro pathways.

I love that it is possible to transform these pathways. Allowing us to explore what lies beyond dehumanisation and the revolving door of bystanders. The later causing, without a doubt, the most harm. For every time the bystander chooses to dismiss us, they do so within a pantomime for which the sole purpose is to protect themselves from thinking thoughts.

The childlike trust we once had and gave to anyone without question, and the landing disillusionment of our being, leaves us able to now recognise that the greatest harm is done by those who choose to do nothing. It cuts the deepest because the power that they hold has the potential to be an incredible catalysts of healing and social change, so the comparison alone is baffling and crazy making. The choice to deny the undeniable serves to solidify our invisibility and is the common leverage for scapegoating us. This experience has, for some time, left me with no words. At fifty three years of age, with large pieces of my puzzle landing, those words come more easily now.

Since I was a child I have used creativity to find those unattainable words, perhaps in part because I do not now have the luxury of living in an illusion that protects me from reality and prevents me from thinking. I am grateful for the capacity to think more and more thoughts. I am thankful for the increasing distance that critical thinking gives me from the constructs that try to dilute this opportunity to live. Starting with movement away from false sectarian definitions of who I am, and the absurdity that it is sacrilegious to have the intrinsic curiosity to find out. Long may the distance travelled from the militant brainwashing of fundamentalism be exponential.

It is isolating on a level that my central nervous system seems unable to master within its current evolution. So perhaps out of desperation, I find myself in a practice of radical acceptance, that starts with,

  1. Remembering where I was a year ago

  2. Recognising where I am now

  3. Imagining where I will be this time next year

We do this in the knowledge that there is no magical escape from mental distress and that respite and softness actually come with moving gently towards, not away from our pain. The daily work to stay safe and sane is, like an iceberg, extraordinary in its height, and depth below the surface. But it is not a badge of honour. What other choice do we have? The alternative is without hope, at its best it is the dullness of living-dead, and at its worst a premature death.

Perhaps I have invisibility to thank for my need to actively use creativity to make sense of experiences, to lean into, and then move out of, distress. I try to do this with the depth that creativity gives and the capacity that humour provides. This website is a vehicle for that process, a 1971 Transam if you like.

In closing, I’d like to share the lyrics of a songs I am currently recording and invite you to take a look around my website if it is of any use to you.

Aroha nui,

Sam RB

That’s Living

It feels like becoming human

Growing pains of the heart and mind

Spreading awkward wings

Flying short burst with heavy landings.

Endless apologies

To those that cared

To not reject

The duckling trapped

All those years

Mind bending torturous

Less than elegant

Survival of our persistently

Naive  and unconsciousness dissociated being

Conditioned invisibility.

It’s not living

It’s not living.

My heart stopped

Each time you bullied me out of my skin

I fell slowly backwards into my bones

With nowhere to run

Trapped

I started

To stop moving.

It’s not living

It’s not living.

Numb agitation

We yearn to articulate

And then

After some time

Of pain and our heart breaking

It falls open and terrified.

Like a miracle

We never anticipate

Happening

It is safe enough to have the thought

And the beginning has begun

The air opens

And we can feel.

Arriving and landing

Inconveniently for some

Arriving and landing

In search of our skin

Earnestly beating

Rising and falling

Beyond their pretence

We did not land here

to live underground.

And that’s living

Thats living.

Sam RB ‘24


New release ‘No Longer’ out 23 September 2024

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New release ‘No Longer’ out 23 September 2024 |